Before any language speaks of how we see what is there, what is there, exists of itself. Getting present to what IS, is a function of being out here, our authentic, open, vulnerable, and purposeful attention on the phenomena for its (their) sake. Our own embodied state is a phenomena that we can also observe as out here. Likewise, who we are being IS what it IS.
Transformation is the condition in which something appears, then disappears so that something new appears. In this sense, transformation is real MAGIC. Transformation can be defined as the experience of new sense of embodiment.
There is an discipline of attention in allowing ourselves to be present to how we are being about ourselves or others or the world, as we ARE, including all our stories. Being present to our stories starts with being present to our embodied selves. Our bodies are constantly with feeling. Feeling is sometimes very clear and sometimes indistinct. Feeling is diverse. Feeling is the sensing of our inner physiological world and our relationship with the external world.
Being present brings increasing distinction to our feeling of our inner and outer world. It also alert us to our naming of things and events, and the meaning we gave all that. In being present to our internal and external words, we can stand in the presence of phenomena without all those names, stories and meanings. The discipline of being present is a discipline of just looking at it, sitting with it, allowing what is to appear clearly to ourselves.
The appearance of things is a revealing of an opening, a disappearance of some of the emotional constraints around that thing. Here in the opening up, is the possibility of the disappearing of things. Personal restraints and habits attached to the emotional constraint, fall away. Compassion and love appear, not as a new thing but as the unconcealing of the essential human being. Compassion will be known as felt. Our embodied experience becomes new. This is the true definition of transformation. As the transformative experience flourishes, like an opening up more and more, new possibilities occur as the creative and generative conversations and endeavours towards a social life we love to live.
Development is Transformative. When we experience something at a young age, we often experience it in an embodied manner, rather than a linguistic manner, especially because we often don't have the language for the experience. In the embodied state we can make some judgements and choices about the experience and how to use or avoid that experience so that we will "be successful" or "not fail" around similar circumstances in the future. As we become 'skilled' at avoiding failure and being successful, we layer all our circumstances with that 'skilled' response, whether we succeed or fail at those later circumstances. A common response to our failure, then, is to look at our world through a series of complaints. The complaint often supports a particular way we are being in the world that we have begun to feel is who we are, and think that how we see the world is how the world really is. Being able to see the originating events of those younger age choices, by putting them into language and then separating the event from our choices, allows the event to show up newly, and then our established choices may disappear, allowing a new choice to appear.
Transformation often occurs as a function of noticing something exists that wasn't previously evident. This can occur through developing a new tool or skill for 'looking' at possibilities. In noticing that 'hidden' aspect, the un-noticed thing appears. Once it appears, it's open interaction with what was previously noticed, creates something new altogether. What had previously existed, still exists but not in the previous form. The old form can even seem to totally disappear. The new form can seem to be completely new.
Transformation relies on an effort in seeing it as it 'IS'; acknowledging that it doesn't need fixing (although sometimes something need resolving); allowing the wonder for new possibilities to rise up; allowing yourself to Be the person that can create a new possibility; choosing and declaring that new possibility; and entering into conversations around the possibility that can support its reality.